Yesterday I continued to help removing our church organ. Where it once was there’s now a gap…
I’ve been part of our Lowestoft church family for 35 years; ‘the organ’ has been a constant source of debate and disagreement. Typically there are 4 points of view, each expressed with passion:
- Pro-organ: speaking of tradition, beauty, reverence, the importance of the instrument.
- Anti-organ: speaking of progress, relevance, reflecting current culture.
- Compromise: we should have a bit of everything and try to please everybody.
- Anti-argument: we shouldn’t discuss it– there are much more important things to consider.
Then there’s the God part – how we best express worship, what it says in the Bible, what God would want…
Sometimes discussions have been uncomfortable and unhelpful. Here’s 7 lessons I’ve learnt:
- Respect: It’s OK for other people to hold different points of view; they should be encouraged to express them.
- Strength: It’s good for people to hold different points of view. Different viewpoints makes a group of people stronger.
- Understanding: In discussion I’m not to prove I’m right and the other person is wrong. I need to understand their point of view.
- Prejudice: I like to put people in boxes; if this person thinks this then…I jump to conclusions about people too quickly.
- Destructive: Debate that’s seen as winning and losing can be destructive.
- Constructive: disagreement is about coming together to find a positive way forward.
- Compassion: People can be hurt in discussions and decisions; I need to be more sensitive to the reactions of those around me.
Today my reading was Numbers 6 that includes a good prayer for everybody – especially those who I may disagree with:
‘The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face towards you and give you peace.’